Personal Relationship with the poor
A revised Reflection by Fred Schaeffer, OFS
"If we want to have a personal relationship with God, we need to have a personal relationship with the poor"
Matthew Kelly, in “Rediscover the Saints”.
Blue Sparrow (August 15, 2019)
We have a responsibility to those who are disadvantaged, who have less than we have. You see, people who are upward in career outlook tend to stay in the social strata of the "better-off;" they no longer have time to even think about, much less associate themselves with, the downtrodden, the poor, the needy, the lonely, the sick. This is true for most trendy people unless they go to church and are able to see the light of the Gospel.
Unfortunately, due to the materialistic views of the times, it is more trendy for our young, educated worker to be able to speak about his or her philanthropic activity in a way it reflects positively on the person's stature. A person likes to boast to his neighbor about his brand new car, his "state-of-the-art" house, computer or some other toy most of us cannot afford. He is likely to mention also that he was able to offset his taxes by means of a substantial donation to an organization helping society, people he really wishes to have nothing to do with. What our trendy and upwardly mobile persons fail to see in this day and age of corporate takeovers, all-too-frequent corporate demises due to Chapter 11 filings and other corporate disasters (e.g. the Steel industry in the U.S.) is that their technical, professional or mid-level management job can suddenly cease to exist and as a result they too could find themselves very rapidly going downward. Many people become homeless and need help. So those who are living the fast life should think at least a little about those who do not. All people are in need of compassion. Many an executive, with a high salary to match, feels lonely and outcast because people admire him for his money rather than for himself, as a person. I've known people who made big bucks but hated their work. Maybe I should say I've also known many more people who loved their work at the lower end of the pay-scale and they still had time for the needs of others. That's not at all surprising in light of the Gospel! We cannot all be Mother Teresa's, but we can care more than we do. Are we willing to spend time with those less fortunate than us and our social circle of friends? For a time I worked in a well-paying job in the international airline field and I made time each Saturday morning to do handyman's work (fixing worn out windows, fixing wooden benches, etc.) at a house for unemployed single women with children who were homeless. This house was run by the Sisters of Charity in Liberty City (Miami, Florida). These Saturdays in 1984-5, were much better spent there than by having Saturday brunch at some fancy seaside restaurant in Coconut Grove.
There is much suffering in the world; much unnecessary pain that can be forestalled by caring friends and neighbors:
- Can we be compassionate to the teenager who does not feel safe in his own home? We must.
- Can we listen to the senior who sits on the same bench all day at the park because he has no family left? We must.
- Can we listen to the tale of another's woe of a lonely life? We must!
- Can we see the suffering as people or persons rather than the recipients of some institutional care (e.g. Welfare, Food-stamps) or "taken care of by agencies who do that sort of thing?" We must see them as persons, as individuals because that's how Jesus sees us in His infinite love.
- No one is exempt from suffering. There are people in management positions in government who have cancer. Their high-level income doesn't help one iota to cure the disease. Our direct and personal compassion and love does and makes their suffering easier to bear. They need your compassion, and not our judgment. Pray for them as individuals and ask how you can be of help.
We need each other. That fact has nothing to do with the level of income, whether we came over on the Mayflower or some other conveyance, whether we are members of a country club or are a member of the working poor. At some time in our lives we need compassion. Should we be cold to people because they do not fit into our schedule and refuse to help the good soul who rings our doorbell in need? No! We must help. We're all in this together. Our Lord didn't turn the blind man away who sought His healing. People who love the Lord (no matter how they know Him) will not turn someone away who needs compassion or even some on-the-spot financial assistance. The poor girl, a mother of two, in that Liberty City house where I helped out… she had nothing of her own, not a cent to her name save the clothes on her back. She had received half a loaf of bread and wondered if I wanted half of it. She gave it to me with a smile that held a joy I cannot forget. There is great joy in giving and also in being compassionate.
God gave His only Son, Jesus, so that Jesus could redeem us from our sins, from our pitiful human suffering. He gives us compassion for our suffering, we, in turn, bend over His Body as He is taken down from the Cross, in the Gospel, and we adore Him for His great love. We also share these sentiments with others by being Christian to them, by loving them as He loves us. When we see each other as we ought, as individual persons, rather than as statistics and "those people," and treat them accordingly, share with each other, pray and counsel each other—then there will be peace on earth.
I wrote the above Reflection when I was a monk in Petersham, MA., in 2002; never published in any of my recent websites, except in 2020 a much longer version of this Reflection was published. It has been said that in order for us to be a friend of God, we have to be friends with the poor. That’s also a very Franciscan ideal. The entire Franciscan Order in all its branches is very involved with those who are less fortunate.
Peace and Good,
Happy New Year 2024
Fred Schaeffer, OFS
12/28/2023